12 TESTS OF LOVE
1.Test of time
Love benefits and grows through time.
Infatuation ebbs (fades and diminishes)
Infatuation may come suddenly
2.Test of Knowledge
Love grows out of an appraisal of all the known characteristics of the other person
Infatuation grow out of acquaintances, how the person looks, how he smiles
3.Test of Focus
Genuine love is other-person-centered
Infatuation is self-centered
4.Test of Significance
Genuine love is focused on only one person
An Infatuated individual may be “in love” with 2 or persons simultaneously
5.Test of Security
Genuine love requires and fosters a sense of security and feelings of trust.
An infatuated individual seems to have a blind sense of security (often feel insecure)
6.Test of Work
An individual in love works for the other person, for his or her mutual benefit
By contrasts, an infatuated person losses his or her ambition, appetite and interests in everyday affairs
A woman in love may study to make her husband proud. A man in love may have ambition spurred on by planning and saving for the future
7.The test of problem solving
Friends in love face problems frankly and try to solve them
Infatuated people tend to disregard or try to ignore
8.Test of distance
Love knows the importance of distance
Infatuation imagines love to be intense closeness 24/7, all time
9.The test of Attraction
Physical attraction is relatively a small part of genuine love
It is the Central focus of infatuation
10.The test of Affection
In love affection is expressed later in the relationship, involving the external expression of physical attraction we just discussed
In infatuation affection is expressed earlier, sometimes at the very beginning
11.Test of stability
Love tends to endure
Infatuation may change suddenly and unpredictably
12.The test of Delayed Gratification
A couple in genuine love is not indifferent to the timing of their wedding, but they do not feel an irresistible drive toward it
An infatuated couple tends to feel an urge to get married.
Ammon and Tammar in the Bible is an example of infatuation
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